Not-to-do

 "Not-to-do" lists are often more effective than to-do lists for upgrading performance.
The reason is simple: what you don't do determines what you can do.
Here are nine stressful and common habits that entrepreneurs and office workers should strive to eliminate. The bullets are followed by more detailed descriptions. Focus on one or two at a time, just as you would with high-priority to-do items. I've worded them in not-to-do action form:
1. Do not answer calls from unrecognized phone numbers.
Feel free to surprise others, but don't be surprised. It just results in unwanted interruption and poor negotiating position. Let it go to voicemail, and consider using a service like Google Voice (you can listen to people leaving voicemail) or Simulscribe (receive voicemails as e-mail).
2. Do not e-mail first thing in the morning or last thing at night.
The former scrambles your priorities and plans for the day, and the latter just gives you insomnia. E-mail can wait until 10 a.m., after you've completed at least one of your critical to-do items…
3. Do not agree to meetings or calls with no clear agenda or end time.
If the desired outcome is defined clearly with a stated objective and agenda listing topics/questions to cover, no meeting or call should last more than 30 minutes. Request them in advance so you "can best prepare and make good use of the time together."
4. Do not let people ramble.
Forget "how's it going?" when someone calls you. Stick with "what's up?" or "I'm in the middle of getting something out, but what's going on?" A big part of GTD [getting things done] is GTP — Getting To the Point.
5. Do not check e-mail constantly — "batch" and check at set times only.
I belabor this point enough. Get off the cocaine pellet dispenser and focus on execution of your top to-do's instead of responding to manufactured emergencies. Set up a strategic autoresponder and check twice or thrice daily.
6. Do not over-communicate with low-profit, high-maintenance customers.
There is no sure path to success, but the surest path to failure is trying to please everyone. Do an 80/20 analysis of your customer base in two ways — which 20% are producing 80%+ of my profit, and which 20% are consuming 80%+ of my time? Then put the loudest and least productive on autopilot by citing a change in company policies. Send them an e-mail with new rules as bullet points: number of permissible phone calls, e-mail response time, minimum orders, etc. Offer to point them to another provider if they can't conform to the new policies.
7. Do not work more to fix overwhelm — prioritize.
If you don't prioritize, everything seems urgent and important. If you define the single most important task for each day, almost nothing seems urgent or important. Oftentimes, it's just a matter of letting little bad things happen (return a phone call late and apologize, pay a small late fee, lose an unreasonable customer, etc.) to get the big important things done. The answer to overwhelm is not spinning more plates — or doing more — it's defining the few things that can really fundamentally change your business and life.